At what point does the great divide take place between males and females? Well, apparently around age five. I never would have believed it myself before teaching for a couple of years and having kids myself that some of it was inate. I just thought it was mostly societal influence.
I mean, all through childhood they divided us up into boys and girls lines and activities; and steered us to separate boys and girl toys and colors, even. And yes this still goes on today, and I thought I've been pretty good at not making that distinction for my son. Because, who cares if he thinks pink and doll houses are cool?
Plus at almost any adult party I've been to, the men end up in one room, and the women end up in another. STRANGE, but true! :) And if the party has kids invited, whose "side" do you think the kids end up on? I dont think I even have to answer that question. It makes for horrible adult conversations and lots of chaos.
Just in the last couple of months or so, my son's been saying things like, "Barbie's are for girls" and refusing to go in the "girls" toy aisle at Target, instead running to the Leggos and Star Wars. I think to myself, where is he getting this from? Yet still, when playing with other girl pals one-on-one, he will do imaginative play with their Barbie's or dollhouses etc.
At a recent kid's party we were at, my son was following around a group of four female 5 or 6 year olds, asking if he could "come along". Here's what I overheard, as the spokesperson for the group said "No, go away, stop following us. No boys allowed. Besides, she doesn't like you because you popped her balloon..."
So what did my normally ultra-sensitive boy do when he heard this? Did he come crying to me? No. He just kept following them around, annoying them all the more.
And so it goes.....
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