I posted this on Twitter last week and had some interesting responses.
So I'd like to hear your thoughts as well.
Here's what I wrote on Twitter after a back and forth email with a bloggy friend.
"Interesting email convo b/w me and a frustrated blogger/twitterer who's considering throwing in the towel. "
"The question she asked, 'Who do people beg you to follow them or read their latest post but have no intention of returning the favor?' "
"Interesting perspective she has. I don't think she's referring to agents (or bloggers who made it to the big time) b/c it would impossible given the # 's."
"Just other bloggers/twitterers/writers. Thoughts?"
Fellow blogger Ally said,
"Who ISN'T like that? Need to write 1st for you, then for loyal followers, even if it's only 2 of them. Crowds will come. :) Blog readers are smart and know when a blog is just for SEO/$ and when it is written with passion. It just takes time. "
Writer friend Leah said,
"Because I follow for content, not favors. I don't read blogs much and rarely comment. And why are they begging? They should want readers who are genuinely interested. Comments/visitors are great but it's the interaction and friendships that rule.
Meaning she/he should be less concerned about numbers and more 'is this post interesting.' "
So there you have it.
I have been blogging for over two years. I began as a style blog (to coincide with my shopping column at the newspaper), but then made the switch to more general topics. Now I consider it a lifestyle blog. I like to talk about everything under the sun, including my writing. I think my followers consist of writers and moms and some fashionsitas, and I like that mix.
Two years ago, there wasn't a FOLLOWERS button. You just listed the blogs you liked on your sidebar and that was that. So things are definitely different, and I resisted putting my followers button up for a long time. Hey, change is hard ;--)
There IS unspoken blogging etiquette that if someone leaves a comment on your post, you should comment back.
Some people do it by email or in the comments section of their own blog. I visit the other person's blog and comment if they have a new post up that I haven't already commented on.
BUT, what if I had 50-100 comments everyday? THAT would be hard to pull off. I try to give my blog one hour of attention every day. If it goes above that it would be too hard to keep up with!
If you follow me, I more than likely follow back UNLESS Google limits the number of blogs I follow. When that happens, I re-evaluate who I'm following and sometimes unfollow others who I don't have a relationship with or I haven't visited in long while (because let's face it, interests change).
And I'm all right if someone does the same to me. No biggie. I don't want to be a numbers watcher. It becomes a drag!
WHAT SAY YOU? I want to know!