Thursday, June 7, 2012
The Sound Of Silence
Spiteful words can hurt your feelings, but silence breaks your heart.
I'll admit, silence is a pet peeve of mine. And I don't mean the kind of silence you crave or create yourself. Long walks, sitting down to write, snuggling with your child.
I mean the kind of silence meant to ignore or exclude.
A friend or family member is angry, and instead of telling you why, they ignore you. A child wants to join a group, but the kids walk away. You try to engage in a conversation with someone on social media and they never respond.
It's the kind of power play that gets under my skin. And the silence can be so difficult to read, you invent your own reasons.
They must be too busy, didn't hear you, can't express their feelings, or are complete A-holes!
And this is when maturity and professionalism come in handy, so you don't jump to conclusions and make a complete fool of yourself. But this is tougher to manage for kids and teens--even adults can go to extreme measures to get someone's attention. All because silence can be MADDENING.
So in your writing, remember that sometimes the power of a scene exists between the dialog. In what remains unsaid. Silence can be so loud, so debilitating, so profound, that it screams to be heard.