Things you can never recover: A word...after it is said.
An occasion...after it's missed.
The time...after it's gone.
A person...after they die.
This weekend was my son's first memorial service (his great-grandma), so lots of questions were posed the week leading up to it and afterward.
Questions like, "Will she feel better now?" "How do people turn to ash?" "Will I ever see her again?"
So if I thought the "how are babies are made" question was tough, this definitely trumpsthat. Because so badly did I want to reassure my child, to take away his fear and pain. To make sure there was no missed opportunity or regret--on either side!
The topic of death is popular in lots of YA (and MG) books. When writing about a child's turmoil surrounding this theme, remember that adults are conditioned to know those answers (or at least an idea of them, based on their beliefs).
As adults, we understand how visceral that sorrow can be in the very hollow of our hearts. The kind that chips away at our souls.
But kids experiences are brand spanking new. They need help understanding the finer points. Only now do they begin to feel things on a larger scale. Every disappointment--every death--represents a chink in their armor. The same armor that once glinted bright as the sun.
So, remember that innocent child's perspective when writing about it.